How To Survive A Move
By: Clare Merryman —April 27, 2020
Moving can be stressful, upsetting, and even aggravating. What is important to remember is that you are not alone. Thousands of kids are just like you and have had to leave their old schools, friends, and homes. According to an article in the Washington Post Roughly 3.5 million Americans move homes each year. With that said, even more students transfer schools. It was recorded that as of last year, 2019, over 36 million American students were enrolled in a different school than they previously had been attending.
I moved several times growing up, and they were big moves, across the country; not just across town. Most moves were made over the summer, but I have even transferred schools mid-year. I moved to Marathon Florida this summer, going into my sophomore year of highschool, all the way from Crystal Lake, Illinois. That was a large move, not to mention that I’d be switching from going to a Catholic school all my life, to now being a public school student.
Fortunately for me, the experience was genuinely terrific. I love the new island lifestyle I live. I get to enjoy the sunshine and being tan all year long. I now enjoy fun and exciting experiences like boating with friends, and I even can explore the ocean on my kayak. The friends I have made or even some of the best I’ve ever had. That doesn’t mean I don’t miss my friends back home though.
For those of you who recently moved, or will be moving in the near future, here are some pointers on how to make your experience and situation 10x easier, from the advice of someone who has been in your shoes!
- Remember that change is part of life. You must change in order to grow. It’s tempting to want to say, “ I just want everything to stay the same.” But in reality, that is impossible. You see and go through so many new adventures when you move. Who knows, you might even be escaping something that you weren’t aware of not liking.
- Turn your anxiety into excitement. Anxiety is super similar to excitement. It just has the added factor of fear. For example how people go skydiving. They do this in order to feel the excitement of fear. Do the same with moving! Change your thoughts of “I’ll miss my friends”, to “I’ll make so many new friends”.
- Talk about it! Everyone thinks that bottling up your feelings is what they need to do when going through a hard time. In reality you need to be doing the opposite. Let those who are close to you know how you feel so they can help you. Talk to your old friends, see what you missed, tell them what’s new, just catch up! They want to know how you are doing, and you will feel better knowing how they are doing as well. It is always nice to remain a part of their life.
This is what I found to be most helpful, and I hope it will help you too. Always remember that you aren’t alone, and you are strong! If you have fun stories to share about your moving experiences, or need to talk to someone—— Comment below or email me at: Claremerryman@gmail.com